What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?

Hindsight is always 20/20. It's easy to look back and connect the dots, to see how the tough seasons shaped you, and how the long roads led you here.

But what if we could actually sit down with our younger selves....before the mistakes, the growth, the titles, and the stretch marks from growing pains? What truth would you speak into your life?

Lately I've been reflecting on that. Because even now, after years of leading, learning, and stepping into spaces I never thought I'd occupy, I still have days where I'm hard on myself. You know those days where you rush past your progress, overlook your wins, and focus too much on what's next rather that what's now....have you ever felt that way?

I think back to the version of me from 25 years ago - working as an ophthalmic technician during the day, waitressing at night, single mom with a baby, trying to get it right with no roadmap and little margin. I didn't have a grand plan. I just kept showing up, working hard, and saying yes to the next hard thing.

That young woman, would never believe where we are today. She wouldn't recognize the woman who would go on to lead at the executive level, speak on stages, and help organizations evolve. She wouldn't know yet how much strength she already carried. But if I could sit with her, just for a moment, I'd tell her what I wish I remembered more often now.

1. You are not behind, you are becoming. The world may try to convince you that you're late, you're lacking, or you will never be enough. But everyone's journey is different. Stay true to your values and keep grinding.

2. Success isn't a ladder - it's a winding path. You will zigzag, stumble, re-route, and fall. But each time that you get up and shake it off will teach you something critical for growth.

3. Your voice matters - even when it shakes. There will be rooms that you may feel small. Speak anyway. The courage to use your voice is a gift. When you get your seat at the table, use your voice. Even if you think differently than others, ESPECIALLY when you think differently than others!

If you're in a season of stretching, trying new things, stepping into unfamiliar roles, pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, I see you. Take a moment to step back, breathe, and reflect. Because the person you were years ago? She dreamed of having what you have now. She'd be proud of how far you've come. And maybe it's time you were, too.